Every year thousands of unwanted pets are returned, given away, or abandoned to their fates. Some of these pets were

The giver is usually well-meaning. It could be that he believes a single friend or relative could "use some company" ... or that giving a new pet will help to ease the grief of someone mourning the loss of a beloved pet ... or someone who "loves animals" will appreciate a pet ... or simply that he finally gives in to repeated requests from the kids to get a pet. It's just not a good idea.

• Someone's lifestyle may not be conducive to caring for a pet ... regardless of whether or not that person is single!

• A person mourning a pet needs time to grieve. She can adopt a new one if or when she is ready. Everyone grieves in different ways.

• Many people who love animals may not actually want to have one, preferring to visit with their friends' or family's pets instead. Caring for a pet is a big responsibility - and that includes a financial responsibility.

• Parents can tell you how often the kids say, But I'll take care of him... pleeeease! I'll feed him, and walk him, and brush him... -- but of course, the adults end up doing the majority of the pet care. Wait until your kids are old enough to assume many of the responsibilities of owning a pet.

Responsible Gift-Giving Alternatives

Instead of giving a pet as a gift:

• Ask your local SPCA, pet rescue organization, or animal shelter whether they sell gift certificates. Give the gift certificate instead of a pet. The recipient can then go and choose their own pet, one whose personality and care requirements matches her own personality and lifestyle.

• Hand-craft a gift certificate or a pet gift basket. Offer to pay for the adoption fee of a new pet, or package up a nice basket filled with useful pet care items and treats, for whenever the recipient decides to adopt a pet.

Special Occasions

The temptation to give a cute pet as a gift can be particularly strong around special occasions such as birthdays or holidays. Resist the temptation; special occasions are often filled with noise, crowds, and plenty of activity. This is a stressful introduction for both the pet and for the people! Wait until the things have settled down and you have time to spend with your new pet.

Lifelong Commitment

People surrender their pets for a number of reasons. In the case of "surprise pets", it's most often because someone in the family didn't get along with the pet or never wanted one to begin with - or the novelty of having a pet simply wore off.

Adopting a pet is a lifelong commitment. When bringing a new pet into your family, everyone in the family should have a chance to meet and spend time with the pet before making the decision to adopt. Remember, pets are family, too!

This article is provided courtesy of The Paw Friendly Directory of products and services for pets and the people who love them! www.pawfriendly.com